I’ve stumbled upon a blog this morning while reading blogs from everywhere and drinking my 1st mug of Neslo. The problem is I have forgotten to bookmark the link to save it for this post so that I can link to it.
The blog posted something about how he was hurt, betrayed and dumped by his girlfriend, and now the girlfriend wants him back after her relationship didn’t work out. So should he accept?
Well, many thoughts ran through my mind while reading that post and I’ve wanted so much to comment on his post however I know that it will be a very long comment thus I’ve decided to save it up for the current post. Yes, I have experienced such betrayal before (many years ago), got dumped and (after a year) was asked to consider giving him another chance, knowing for the fact that there is a very high chance he was dumped by his girl (his 1st ex in fact).
When a person was betrayed under the spell of love, one will be suffering in a total anguish and one may get too depress over such pain, regardless which gender. Some may go through the thoughts of committing suicide when such drastic change happened, such as losing the other half of his/her life. However, those who are strong enough to stand up again will understand that what don’t break them will make them stronger.
The thing is after going through the entire break up cycle and having my ex asking for a chance back is something that I find totally sickening. Why? Well, the first thing that came into my mind was, I am not a “thing” to have and dump when you don’t want and then want to have again when you lost your path or decided that I am a better person. So, when I received that question...emotion runs crazily in me. I wanted to scream at him but I was just too overwhelmed over my emotion that I couldn’t voice out anything without being sarcastic and yet, what I can do was ….anger. Anger runs so deep that I nearly throw out every vulgar and sarcastic word that I can think of right there and then. Funny how well I’ve controlled myself.
I wonder why one didn’t try or do their best to care and appreciate what they have but yet when one realized what they’ve lost, then they wanted it back. It’s too late for that. What I’ve answered him? I told him to respect me and my boyfriend (yes at that point of time I was already attached), and himself, and not to ask me that question again. It took me a few years later to accept him as my friend. It was hard to forgive but I did nonetheless, and I am a happier person. Yes, forgiveness play wonders.
I don’t know about you but I find that if he/she wants to leave you, there could be a reason for it. Either you are not as good as he/she thought or the other party is so much better than you that he/she can leave you for good, or cruelly. Yes, it hurt so much to face the fact, but too bad it is the fact nonetheless. So my answer will be NO, I will not accept my Ex back after he leaves me.
What about you?
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