Throughout the years, I have seen many of my friends, colleagues and relatives getting married and having kids. However, at the recent years I have also seen a few of them getting divorce and leaving the kids to be care by their grandparents or either the father or mother. It is sad to see a condition like this having to break up and ruining the life of the children, bringing them up in such a different situation and molding a negative perception in a family concept.

Being the outsider, we are not able to judge nor have a say on what happened behind the scene, simply because we would never know the truth in the details on how it happened or why. This applies not only to divorce cases but to break up cases as well. We can’t judge even if we did listen to both parties.

As divorce cases is not new in Malaysia and of course looking at it, it is picking up very well nowadays, there are so many divorcee around us, with or without kids. I even have a few friends that are divorcee now, female and male, mostly with kids. Normally I find that the kids will always stay with their father.

I would like to ask this question to both female and male on their opinions of divorcee with kids or without kids.

Let say as a man, you’ve met someone who is in her 20s and she is a divorcee with a kid (staying with her ex husband) that you’ve found interested in, will you accept her? If yes, why? If no, why?

Let say as a woman, you’ve met someone who is in his 30s and he is a divorcee with kid staying with him that you’ve found interested in, will you accept him? If yes, why? If no, why?