In what way do you consider a partner as being ‘sticky’ or ‘too sticky’?

I am always questioning people on their definition of ‘sticky partner’ whenever they mentioned it during one of their many complaints. I would ask them to define their term of being sticky before I continue either to console them or share their thoughts. Well, we wouldn’t want to be in the wrong channel do we? You see, each individual has their own level of ‘stickiness’ that they couldn’t tolerate.


Well, to give you 2 scenarios based on my own experiences in my past relationships.


I have an ex who constantly needs to contact me and I must answer it without fail, so that he wouldn’t go into some frenzy about what I am doing behind his back. He calls me more than 8 times during working hours with almost 30 minutes conversation each. He will interrogate me about my daily itinerary. He make me feel quite guilty if I choose to spend a night hanging out with my girlfriends and not with him, which is once a week if time permits. I do not mind seeing each other daily but the time that we don’t, I was requested not to hang out while he does it. Once, he saw how good looking was my colleague (previous company), he started to question me a lot every day whether did I hang out or handle his issue or not. I collaborate with my then colleague together most of the time as he is the Finance decision maker while I was the IT decision maker to work on a project. How can I not hang out with him? If you ask me whether is this ‘sticky’? I am going to say this is not only sticky but controlling as well. In fact, it is quite a mentally abusive relationship.

2nd scenario irks me in some way. One of my ex prefer to be ‘alone’ in many ways. He wouldn’t like to hang out holding hands nor find the time to have quality times with me. In fact, he was the one finding me ‘sticky’ in this situation. I wasn’t aware I was being ‘sticky’ from my previous relationships until he said so to me. Well then again, I was calculating the time that we do spend quality time together. He spent 4 days (at night) playing games with his friends while left 2 days (night) catching up movies or hanging out with me. Hmm…oh well, that is the past.


Seriously, up until now, I do not know what is the level of ‘stickiness’ in a person to a partner. Do you?


Anyway, stickiness has different level and meaning to different people I think. What is yours? What is considered STICKY to you? Share it with me so I can learn.





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